AND BE HAPPY TOMORROW
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It will help you to be happy in future if you bear in mind the following:
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1. Happiness is not a goal to be achieved but an emotion that is a byproduct of what you do.
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2. Thinking in terms of whether you deserve or do not deserve to be happy will stop you being happy.
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3. There is nothing wrong with feeling sad, which is the appropriate emotion to feel after you have suffered a loss or disappointment.
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4. Depression is not just being very unhappy. We become depressed when we blame ourselves for the disaster that has befallen us. Being depressed means feeling that you are utterly alone, locked into some kind of horrible prison, where no comfort can reach you and you will not comfort yourself
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5. To create the conditions whereby happiness can blossom you have to do some or all of the following:
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Understand that what you do is a result of how you have interpreted what happens, and that you are free to change your interpretations.
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See yourself as valuable and acceptable. To do this, you may have to review your childhood and recognize that as a child you came to the conclusion that you must have been bad and unacceptable, otherwise the adults around you would not how treated you as they did. Look at this now from an adult’s perspective.
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Listen to how you talk to yourself and, if you are constantly criticizing yourself and making impossible demands on yourself, stop doing it. Be your own best friend.
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Cultivate the ability to live in the present, paying attention only to what is going on around you. In fretting about what has happened in the past and anxiously planning the future, we inevitably shut ourselves off from a great source of happiness that of fully experiencing what is before us.
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Use the ability to be in the present by, every day, giving yourself little treat or reward. Do not do this because you deserve it, but because it’s actually quite a nice thing to do.
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Visualize yourself happy and smiling – often!
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